Perspective: Same Sex Marriage

Will The Gays Win? No.

(By Mike McManus April 15, 2009)

Gays have won significant victories in the last couple of weeks. First, there was the unanimous decision by the Iowa Supreme Court to legalize same-sex marriage. There have been other top state court decisions but they were always 5-4, barely enough to win. It was also the first state to take this step in the Midwest.

Second, Vermont not only became the first state to legalize gay marriage by the Legislature, but also without pressure from a court case, as in Massachusetts. Third, the governor vetoed the bill, but the Legislature overrode the veto.

Fourth, the Washington DC City Council voted unanimously last week to recognize same-sex marriage performed elsewhere. All recognize this is a half step toward legalization.

However, I believe the battle will ultimately be won by supporters of traditional marriage. Remember that the Germans were ahead in 1943.

Take Iowa, where the Supreme Court declared there was no "constitutionally adequate" justification to prevent "same-sex marriage" Iowans disagree. A February 2008 Iowa Poll showed 62 percent of Iowans believe marriage should be only between one man and one woman, with only 32 percent saying it should not.

Who will lead the opposition? Start with religious leaders.

Within hours, Iowa's Catholic bishops "strongly disagreed" with the decision, calling it "unwarranted social engineering" weakening the relationship between marriage and parenting. "This decision rejects the wisdom of thousands of years of human history. It implements a novel understanding of marriage, which will grievously harm families and children," they wrote. The rights of marriage "are not something that the state creates or may redefine."

Religious leaders have had many victories hardly mentioned in recent weeks. In California, for example, evangelicals joined Catholics to lead a 52-48 percent victory for Prop 8's limit of marriage to joining a man and woman. And that was the 30th state constitutional amendment limiting marriage to heterosexual couples. Only three states have gay marriage.

The good guys are winning by a 10-1 margin.

Maggie Gallagher, President of the National Organization for Marriage, quotes Vaclav Havel saying "Truth and love will prevail over lies and hate." She adds, "On that basis Havel took on the Soviet empire. Where is the invincible empire now?"

"Same sex marriage is founded on a lie about human nature: 'There's no difference between a same-sex and opposite sex unions and you are a bigot if you disagree.' Political movements can - sometimes at great human cost and with great output of energy - sustain a lie but eventually political regimes founded on lies collapse in on themselves."

She asks, "What does losing marriage mean? First, the rejection of the idea that children need a mom and dad as a cultural norm...Second, the redefinition of traditional religious faiths as the moral and legal equivalent of racists. The proposition on the table right now is that our faith itself is a form of bigotry."

The Washington Post, hardly a conservative paper, published examples recently: "A Christian photographer was forced by the New Mexico Civil Rights Commission to pay $6,637 in attorney's costs after she refused to photograph a gay couple's commitment ceremony.

"A psychologist in Georgia was fired after she declined for religious reasons to counsel a lesbian about her relationship. Christian fertility doctors in California who refused to artificially inseminate a lesbian patient were barred by the state Supreme Court from invoking their religious beliefs in refusing treatment.

"It really is all about religious liberty for us," said Scott Hoffman, chief administrative officer of a New Jersey Methodist group, the Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association, which lost a property tax exemption after it declined to allow its beachside pavilion to be used for a same-sex union ceremony. "The protection to not be forced to do something that is against deeply held religious principles," reported the paper.

This sort of honest reporting will awaken a sleeping giant, millions of Americans who believe deeply in traditional marriage and who resent any trampling of people because of their deeply held religious convictions.

Wednesday's Washington Post even published a column by 1,000 retired generals and admirals who argue that if Obama repeals the law stating that homosexuality is incompatible with military service, it "would prompt many dedicated people to leave the military."

They cite a poll that 10 percent would not reenlist and 14 percent would consider leaving. Even the lesser number means 228,600 would exit, more than all active-duty Marine Corps.

Some battles have been lost, but this war is not over.

(Michael J. McManus is a syndicated columnist writing on "Ethics & Religion". He is President & Co-Chair of Marriage Savers.)

I think that something not discussed much in this debate, is the injustice of redefining marriage to suit a group that wants to usurp its 'meaning'. Same-sex marriage is all about 'pretending' to be an actual married couple.

Advocates of same-sex marriage need to step back and face themselves in the mirror. They will see someone willing to take away from someone else what they themselves can not have. Same sex marriage does not make two men or two women married. It makes marriage meaningless. Its purpose cannot be to accomplish the physically impossible. The real purpose must be to exact a price on society for a non-crime ...namely not being able to fabricate a heterosexual normalcy for gay couples.

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Anonymous said...

You're right, legalising a same sex union and calling it marriage will undermine the meaning of marriage.

Marriage is a both sexed arrangement with the possibility of paternity. A same sex arrangement has no possibility of conceiving children and is biased towards one sex.

Anonymous said...

When I get into debates with same-sex marriage supporters, they inevitably begin to denigrate the marriage institution, as a worthless, outdated societal fabrication, arbitrary in nature. They will also claim that children have nothing to do with marriage, they exist in separate bubbles. This just isn't so.

This line of logic is a pile of hopelessly tangled and mangled bits, scarcely recognizable.

Anonymous said...

"The protection to not be forced to do something that is against deeply held religious principles,"

I am not religious but I also am against the re-definition of marriage based on natural law and my deeply held moral principles. Will someone like me be forced to comply even though I do not affiliate myself with a specific religion?

island breezes said...


You ask a great question. Its almost as if you don't count if you're not from an identifiable group, as if decisions might be made only on a political basis...not because of any real concern for the reality of you as a peson.

I don't believe that anybody's 'right to conscience' is of much concern to most politicians. They don't seem to grasp the concept of 'reality'. i.e. reality is not malleable. People have 'beliefs' that are an intrinsic part of their humanness, and those 'beliefs' should be respected. This means that they should not be forced to do things they find morally repugnant, whether politicians agree with them or not. If gov't forces morally repugnant behavior on citizens, they are no longer citizens, but subjects. Or less than subjects. Even less than human!

peter hoh said...

Are you really asserting that there are no married people who advocate for same-sex marriage?

island breezes said...

"Are you really asserting that there are no married people who advocate for same-sex marriage?"


The true value of marriage is best understood in the context of our relationship with our Creator. His purpose in our physical bodies, sexuality and total humanness are expressed through marriage. Its a very full and beautiful vocation utterly impossible for homosexual couples to attain.

I do know some married people who advocate SSM out of a misplaced desire to be 'kind and tolerant'.

Married people advocating SSM are not being loving neighbours to SS couples, to encourage them in their delusions.

Aside from the fullest understanding of marriage, as making visible the true presence of the Holy Trinity, non-believers also have, through the centuries, understood at least part of the story through the obviousness of our physical and social realities.

peter hoh said...

What do you make of the marriages of Rudy Giuliani and Newt Gingrich? Do you view them as deluded about marriage, or is this a label that you only apply to people in same-sex couples?

island breezes said...

Deluded is not a label. Its a state of being. One is deluded if one persists in living/believing something which is clearly not possible - such as the possibility of two men/women actually being married, or the possibility of being joined in one flesh to more than one person.

I'm sorry, but I am not privy to the details of anyone's marriage outside of my own. I would say that after 20+ years of marriage I am still acquiring a deeper understanding of the great gift that marriage is for the couple, the family and the community. I would imagine the same is true of others seeking to fulfill their God given vocation as married people.